Fix What’s Perfect
April 22, 2020
You have two choices: You can hire the Valedictorian of the senior class at Harvard or the guy who just barely scraped by at the bottom of Harvard’s latest graduating class. What’s it going to be? When presented with these […]
Read MoreThe Zone
March 23, 2020
It was June of 1992 and the Portland Trailblazers were pulling ahead of the Chicago Bulls in game 1 of the NBA Championship. As a Bulls fan, I was flat out nervous because it seemed as if the game was […]
Read More“Why Me?”
February 3, 2020
Over the years, I’ve seen an incredibly diverse collection of issues and problems of living that my clients encounter daily. We live in a broken world and the amount of pain that people experience is truly staggering at times. Divorce, […]
Read MoreHope for a New Year
December 30, 2019
It’s hard to find a more hopeful time of the year than the Christmas season. We are all just different in the four weeks between Thanksgiving and New Year’s. People spend more time with family, smile more often at total […]
Read MorePractical Gratitude
December 4, 2019
It’s Thanksgiving, which means we all have a chance to step back from the chaos of the daily grind and express gratitude for the many blessings of our life. The practice of gratitude has been studied by psychologists for years […]
Read MoreAnxiety and Worry
September 6, 2019
We planned our first trip to Disney World as parents with great intention. Having grown up near Orlando I always felt an affinity for the most Magical Place on Earth and it was important that my little boy had an […]
Read MoreKeep the Main Thing the Main Thing
August 13, 2019
I finished up the session with Connor, my 9 year old client, and walked out into the waiting room to meet with his mother. I updated her on how the treatment was going (he was struggling with intense anxiety and […]
Read MoreThe Disconnected Husband
June 28, 2019
I see it over and over again in the clinical office. A couple comes in for marital counseling and I watch as the wife desperately tries to get her husband to engage in the conversation. After watching her scramble for […]
Read MoreHow to Avoid Sleep Deprivation
June 10, 2019
Several weeks ago, I settled into bed after a long day ready for a good night’s sleep. As I laid there drifting off into what I hoped was at least 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep, I heard an incredibly loud […]
Read MoreCultural Narcissism
April 15, 2019
I had a very challenging married couple come in to the counseling office last week who were both clearly emotionally disturbed. They seemed to share some negative personality characteristics that presented as a strange combination of Narcissistic and Borderline Personality […]
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